Recently I had an epiphany and I decided that once I started to feel the desire to procreate, I would marry the closest male type creature to me at the time, have one daughter and then just stop so that if the situation should arise, I would be able to provide for myself and my child without too much financial difficulty. I tried to share this with a friend of mine and then ALL OF A SUDDEN it's all 'you should talk to someone about your daddy issues'....
I resent that.
So what if I think that all men will eventually cheat? That's not unhealthy, it's practical. I honestly think that the reason women get so shattered over unfaithfulness is because they think their partners are saints who find the breasts of all other women barring them utterly repulsive. So the day they walk in on Tom, Dick or Harry getting it on with the nanny, maid or neighbour, they break down in tears and wail like a mourning widow. If on the other hand, they were expecting it, the scenario would be a tad different. I like to think that if I ever discovered any infidelity, I would simply pack a bag, take my child and the details of my offshore bank account and relocate.
Don't get me wrong, I don't WANT to end up in a faithless relationship and when people are happy in long term relationships [cynical though I may be] it does make me smile. I just know that love tinted spectacles are opaque in nature so I would like to see more people with eyes wide open. The Spice Girls sang about when 'two become one' but no one ever thought about when 'one becomes two' again. I think about it all the time and if it ever happens, I'll be prepared.
That's all I'm saying...
Miss Stand Offish
I don't think you can just run off with the child without first obtaining legal custody with visiting rights for the father if he wanted them. How do you think your child would feel you tried to deprive her of all contact with her father?
ReplyDeleteA better solution is to find the right man who'll be faithful to you. Paul McCartney never cheated on Linda and God knows he had plenty of choice!
Hi there Gorilla Bananas
ReplyDeleteIn your quest for legal propriety, I do believe you have missed the entire point of this article...
I am merely stating a message akin to our scarred friend from the lion king..."BE PREPARED" for anything. hyena inspired stampedes...change in weather....and your life partner running off with the maid.
that is all :)
Oh I see. Yes you're right: being prepared is always a good thing. However, it's difficult to be prepared for a marital infidelity without mistrusting your spouse, and if the said spouse becomes aware of this mistrust it might precipitate the misconduct you're trying to avoid. Nevertheless, I'm sure you'll manage to navigate your way through these pitfalls when the time comes.
ReplyDeleteI see your point and though it is a fine line to walk, it is nonetheless a necessary one. If you are open to the potential for an unsavoury scenario as opposed to being entirely consumed by love, you will never reach the point that the arrival of said scenario sends you into mass depression. It isn't 'mistrust' per se but rather realism. There is always a potential for infidelity: I do not advocate looking for it, but I do endorse being prepared lest you should find yourself in that situation.
ReplyDeleteCarrying a spare tire in your car doesn't mean you want an accident- it just means you don't want to be stranded if one should occur...